I know wedding planning can be hard but I’m about to make it hella easy with my 10 secrets to planning the best wedding day ever. Keep reading if you’re excited to plan a wedding day all about you and your soon to be spouse!
1. Weddings do not have to be stressful.
They’re stressful because the word wedding is filled with expectations you feel you must fulfill for whatever reason. You don’t.
You don’t have to do things you don’t want to do for your wedding.
Choose to only do the things you want to do for your wedding.
Deal with ONLY the people you truly want to deal with on your wedding day.
Only have the elements that are most important to you on your wedding day.
Know that you can get married literally anywhere. It doesn’t have to be in a church or a chapel. It can be outside on a public street in front of your favorite wall mural downtown or in the great outdoors, or with your toes in the sand at your favorite beach.
2. This day is literally just about 2 people – yourself and your partner.
This is YOUR wedding. A lot of people will have you believe it doesn’t belong to you, that it must be traditional and must make everyone happy.
People will have expectations of you, people close to you.
I urge you to realize these expectations are part of a social construct that doesn’t have anything to do with your wedding or your love. For years, weddings have always been a thing that family has participated in, in a lot of cultures it still is. But love and marriage are incredibly personal and exclusive. Not to mention, people will always project their desires and insecurities upon you. What they’re telling you is what they want/wanted for themselves and their wedding. They’re reflecting their own expectations on you. Don’t fall into the trap.
The only two people this is really, really about is you and your partner. Literally.
3. Wedding traditions and etiquette are irrelevant.
Did you know that brides and bridesmaids of the past used bouquets of flowers because people didn’t shower regularly and they wanted to smell good for their weddings?
Did you know that brides had bridesmaids to confuse evil spirits that might come to the wedding to curse the bride?
Are you aware that almost all of those fancy wedding invitations that you’re planning on sending will be thrown away?
Alright look, I’m not saying don’t have all of these things, what I’m saying is these things that are “traditional” probably don’t have a deep rooted personal significance to you nor your family. Just because they’re traditional wedding things doesn’t mean you must include them in your wedding.
Why do you need everyone’s permission to enjoy your spouse? You had tens of thousands of dollars to begin with. Choose to spend that on you and your spouse.
4. Don’t let anyone’s attitudes about YOUR day affect you. Do YOU.
Having been a wedding photographer and planner for about 9 years, I learned about this anomaly that happens about the time when everyone gets their invitation. People closest to you will start to lose their minds. They’ll start telling you what you should and should not do for your wedding. Fuck them. See number 1, 2, AND 3.
5. $10k can be a lot or a little. You choose.
The reality is that big weddings are expensive. Your bigger expenses will come from venue rental and food, two things you need less of when your guestlist diminishes to your most exclusive VIP. So instead of renting a venue to fit and feed a bunch of people, reframe your idea of what a wedding can be.
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